Saturday, April 17, 2021

My hometown...

I am thinking of my hometown now. Mission, Texas. And McAllen, Texas. And Mercedes, Texas, where I was born. And Donna, Texas, so near there. And La Joya, Texas. which is so near there- and where some of my friends are from.

All of these dear places are dear to me. SO DEAR.
Do they not matter?
Do they mean nothing?

Dr. Anthony Fauci doesn't want us to go to restaurants even if we've been vaccinated. He is so cautious, right?
Has he said anything about folks coming across the border with Covid to my hometown? Is there no warning from him on that? (Maybe there is, but I haven't seen it. Correct me if I am wrong.) (Oh, just today I heard he was worried about that.) (right?)

Vice President Kamala Harris has not been to my hometown or anywhere near it. Does it seem that she wants the masses to come in and infect the border - and the rest of the country? 

 Of course we want people to come to America who want to come. OF COURSE. 

Of course people want to come to America.

 But last I heard there were people crossing the border illegally from 64 countries around the world. 

Isn't that awful?
Isn't there a way to come a right way??

I love all folks. All folks- just so you know.

Come the right way.


(I want you to come.)

Friday, April 16, 2021

I'm Getting Off "The Explain Train." Part 2 of my Self-Care

Part 1 is HERE if you want to read it.

After my first grief therapy sessions I was so helped.
Grieving my twin's loss - well, has taken years. (Still, now, frankly.)
(She died in 1989, when we were 37 years old.
(I'm so glad I was (am) a twin.)

But here is this.. 

Years later I started having major insomnia problems. 

It was in the mid-90's for a long time, it seemed.
If you've had this problem, you know it is not a good thing.

I couldn't figure out what my problem was... but I was ready for some help.
My husband had sent some of our church members to a fellow who was highly recommended, and their lives were turning around.
Sam suggested maybe I should go to him.

He was (is) Dr. Barris Ayres, and he had (has) an office in Grapevine, TX.
Here he is with his precious wife Kim...

At first I thought Barris would point out all the problems in my life - pointing out how my whole family of origin was (must be) really screwed up.  I didn't want to hear that, but I just thought that's what psychologists do. (You get the gist.)
AH, but Barris helped me see my 'issues' and he did NOT bash my family of origin. Whew.
He gave me tools to use - to help me. And I use them to this very day.
I tell Sam every so often (every month at least), "I am SO GLAD I WENT TO BARRIS."
(And he has become a personal friend.)

I say all this to say, go get help if you at all feel you need to!!

Give yourself permission to be you - with all your faults - and foibles.

And lean hard on GOD.

That spells relief!

Well, I may schedule some more time with a therapist. Next year I'll be 70.
Years ago at church in another locale I was stopped by a 75 year old church member - who was beautiful and always wore the latest style. She said, "Nancy, (I wasn't yet 40 then) I thought by the time I was this age (75) I would like myself."
Whoa. I thought that if anybody should like themselves it would be Clara (fake name). 

I can't remember what I told her (except that I was astonished she thought that way), but I do remember thinking, "Nancy Jane, you better love yourself NOW."

Reading highly recommended books and going to counseling- and being still with God and his Word - have helped me do that.

Oh I do regress and get hard on myself...but just writing this here blog post is helping me today!

You can click HERE to go find out how to get in touch with Dr. Ayres. 


So I'm a believer in getting help.

On that note, my mother who is living in a nursing home now, has a psychologist who comes around every Monday and visits with her. She had never gone to counseling, and was never interested in going, BUT she tells me she is REALLY liking that visit every week! I think that is great.

So get help if you need it. 


Wednesday, April 14, 2021

I'm Getting Off "The Explain Train."

I always feel I have to explain myself - about why I do what I do, etc.
My husband doesn't. He just does what he thinks/feels is right - or what he wants to do.

Years ago I read WHEN I SAY NO I FEEL GUILTY by Manuel J. Smith. (Publication date: February 1, 1975)

We read that book in 1982, when we were missionaries in Brazil. Several of our fellow missionaries were reading it, so we jumped on the bandwagon.
We found that - as many clergy do - we really didn't have to be 'everybody's everything'. We needed to take of ourselves!
Jesus would get off by himself - leaving the needy crowds of folks - to get in touch with God and with himself.

In that book, I found that when folks ask:

"Why did you do that?"
"Why do you think that?"
"Why do you feel that way?"

You can just answer: I DON'T KNOW.

Yeah. You don't have to explain yourself away.

Whoa, that is major!  MAJOR!!!!!!!

I'm putting up this bill of assertive rights found at the beginning of the book, but that doesn't mean I don't want you to read the book.
Here it is...


I: You have the right to judge your own behavior, thoughts, and emotions, and to take the responsibility for their initiation and consequences upon yourself.

II: You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for justifying your behavior.

III: You have the right to judge if you are responsible for finding solutions to other people’s problems.

IV: You have the right to change your mind.

V: You have the right to make mistakes—and be responsible for them.

VI: You have the right to say, “I don’t know.”

VII: You have the right to be independent of the goodwill of others before coping with them.

VIII: You have the right to be illogical in making decisions.

IX: You have the right to say, “I don’t understand.”

X: You have the right to say, “I don’t care.”


So there's that.

Also, get counseling if you need to!!!

The first time ever I went to a counselor was the summer after my twin died. I was 37.
In making the appointment I started crying. The receptionist said it was okay. She said, "We'll get you into see Dr. Tyson and she will help you."
That was in Lawton, OK, in the summer of 1989. She was Del Tyson, and she was affiliated with the James Dobson's FOCUS ON THE FAMILY organization. (She was located in SW Oklahoma as a provider for lots of folks, especially at the Fort Sill army post.) ]

We worked on grief issues - and it was so worth it. Ah, but when I drove in the first time to her offices, I didn't want anyone to see me, and know that I needed therapy. (I was a Baptist preacher's wife, and well, what would people say if they knew their preacher's wife needed help?) But oh, I did need help.
And it helped.  DID IT HELP!
My message : Get help.
Help is out there. 

Del taught me how it was okay to feel however I felt. And to journal, and to beat the bed with a foam rubber bat if I needed to.
(There were other things I learned. But just getting the permission to grieve however I needed to and as long as I needed to  - with helpful tools - was so what I needed.)


Soon I will blog again about my MAIN COUNSELOR- whose advice I still heed!!

Oh, Barris doesn't counsel me everyday, but I so remember his counsel from years ago, and I still reap the benefits.
Oh yes.
Thank you, Barris.

Stay tuned to my Self-Care Part 2. 


And you take care of yourself, ya hear?

Friday, April 9, 2021



Because an increasing number of people are having heart attacks while gambling, the big, high-class casinos are now equipped with sophisticated defibrillators.

They are computer-controlled to deliver the exact electric shock needed to revive a heart attack victim.

At the cheaper casinos, they just drag you across the carpet and touch your finger to the doorknob.


The inventor of the umbrella was originally going to call it brella...

But he hesitated.


Patient: Doctor, I'm thinking that I may be losing my hearing.

Doctor: Can you tell me what you know of the symptoms?

Patient: Homer is bald and fat, Marge has blue hair…



Q: What gets wet while it’s drying?
A: A towel.
Q: What lets you look right through a wall?
A: A window.


What do you call a pig that does karate?


That is all for today.

(I thought those were worth a smile.)


Wednesday, April 7, 2021

I'll be celebrating for a while!

 Late Monday night Sam and I were rejoicing with smiles on our faces... and our right hands raised high with a 'Sic 'Em, Bears!'


 I wasn't going to Baylor. My twin Peggy (Peggy Jean and I'm Nancy Jane - so we did have twinsie names) was determined to go to Baylor after we heard a Baylor student speak on a Sunday night at First Baptist Church in Kaufman, TX, our Grandmother Jennie's church. That student was vivacious and absolutely loved Baylor - and she made Peggy decide to definitely be a Bear.

Me, I thought we might ought to go to different colleges, so as to find our way in the real world as 'singletons'.
I applied at, among other places, Stephen F. Austin in Nacogdoches, TX. I knew that was a beautiful campus, in east Texas. I got accepted.

Ah, but long story short, my dear dad talked to me out on the swing in the back porch of our house in Mission, TX. He kind of found out that I might want to be a Baylor Bear, too. And he encouraged it.
So I was Baylor Bound, too!


Fast forward 51 years... the Baylor Bear basketball team won FIRST PLACE in the NCAA Championship Monday night!!!!!!!!

As you may know Baylor has not always been stellar in the sports world. BUT NOW IT IS!!! 

And we want to thank our Coach Scott Drew!

I could tell you a lot more.

But we're still excited, and basking in the win!!

Sic 'Em, Bears!!!

You can congratulate me. I'll take it!!

Tuesday, April 6, 2021

Trivia Tuesday

The rafflesia is the largest flower in the plant world, it can measure up to one meter in diameter and weigh up to 10 kg. It has no stem, no leaf, no root, but only a five-petal flower. This one-of-a-kind giant flower can be found in Malaysia, the Philippines and Indonesia. 


What do all the flags of the Scandinavian countries have in common? They all have crosses.

Ferris Bueller’s Day Off was the 1986 John Hughes comedy starring Matthew Broderick, Mia Sara, and Alan Ruck. Hughes not only directed the film but he also wrote it. Even more astonishing is the fact that it took him only six days to write the entire script.



In the country of Italy, the number 13 is not considered bad luck… but the number 17 is!

There are more than 7,000 different Caribbean islands, but only about 2% of them are inhabited.

Agatha Christie wrote her first detective novel, The Mysterious Affair at Styles, after a bet with her sister, Madge.
It was some four years before The Mysterious Affair at Styles was published, having been rejected by six publishers.


Dr Pepper is the oldest major soft drink brand in America.

That is all for today.
Have a great week!

Friday, April 2, 2021

Fun with Mother and then with Nell...

Sam and I visited Mother yesterday... and she got a special visitor!!

Then we picked up Nell and Liam from school and Nell and I did 'Beauty Shop' on their back patio.


And then Nell did her own hair...

And tonight I'm going to babysit Nell and Liam when Will takes Bailey out for her BIRTHDAY CELEBRATION!!!


Here she is with her beautiful family...


My hometown...

I am thinking of my hometown now. Mission, Texas. And McAllen, Texas. And Mercedes, Texas, where I was born. And Donna, Texas, so near there...