Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Marriage advice from my Blog Readers!....

Wow. You, blog readers, are so wise. I love your advice!

Here it is!!

Be sure you're in it together. By it, I mean life. You're a team and together you take on the world.

Never, ever make fun of your spouse in public. Even if you are just teasing.

Don't fight. Negotiate.

Laugh a lot.

On those days when maybe you don't "like" each other so much, take time to remember what it is you LOVE about your spouse and TELL THEM.

Never nag.

Pray for your spouse often. At the very least once a day. Pray for his/her health, safety, well-being, job performance, happiness, faith, etc.

Don't make your Facebook status a criticism of your spouse.

Don't go to bed mad - if possible.

Don't flirt with anybody but your spouse.

Let criticism BE GONE!!!

Don't keep secrets.

Look nice at home.

Learn each other's Love Language and "speak" it often.

Show each other respect.


Don't hold grudges.


Don't take yourself too seriously.

Relax together.

Be intimate.

Intentionally set aside time to be together.

Don't think that marriage is a 50/50 partnership. Its 100/100. Even if you feel like your spouse isn't measuring up all the time.

Show a genuine interest and appreciation for your spouse's hobbies and make time to take part in them.

Travel the world and see new places together.

Cook dinner as a couple.

Give random gifts for no reason at all.

When your spouse isn't making sense to you, try with all your might to see it from their perspective. Remember men and women quite often do not process or see things the same way.

Trust is giant.

Love trumps everything.

Do not go to bed mad at each other.

It's okay to agree to disagree.

Pray together. The strength you two will feel as sit in God's hands together is awesome and will flow through everything you do.

Read HIS NEEDS HER NEEDS by Willard Harley

Don’t expect your spouse to meet all your emotional needs. That’s so not fair to your spouse.

Seek to love your spouse unconditionally.

Always kiss goodbye.

 Is that not great?

Thanks, everyone!!!!


sara [at] journey of doing said...

I like it. :) Lots of good advice there. :)

Anonymous said...

Sounds like great advice! I missed the last post in time to give advise, but I think everybody got it good. I espcially liked "Never, ever make fun of your spouse in public. Even if you are just teasing." and "Don't think that marriage is a 50/50 partnership. Its 100/100. Even if you feel like your spouse isn't measuring up all the time."

Myra J said...

The goodbye kiss was actually passed to me from a friend. The story: She and her hubby were fighting over something...she no longer remembers what...and she didn't kiss him goodbye when he left for work, she was pregnant and grumpy and wasn't ready to make up. He was killed at work that day. She said that was her biggest regret.....

Andy Hollinger said...

All of this is good stuff. Take it from a certified failure at marriage that I can say that in all sincerity. But much of this is easier to say than to do and, as such, is often a work in progress.

I would add the maxium, get better at your weaknesses ~ every day.

Abraham Lincoln once replied about somebody's comment on his marriage/wife that "people are about as happy as they make themselves to be."

Your marriage is as good as you consider it. It's not about being "happy" but about being a better human and helping me (and her) to get closer to God ...

Thanks for letting me post.

lydia chumbley said...

Nancy, enjoyed the marriage advice, but think i would have to be Mother Teresa to follow all of them. I think there needs to be a little spice in the stew! we have been married 51 yrs and love each other dearly, but sometime you just gotta shake it up a little.

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