I was liking it.... though at first I wasn't so sure.
I so wasn't so sure.
Then I started liking it.
Then I went to the dry cleaners to get some clothes I'd left there and my friend, Kathy, the Korean owner of the dry cleaners, said, "Nancy, you got your hair cut!"
Then she said, "Nancy, in a few weeks it will look a lot better, okay?!"
And then she added, "Don't ever get your hair cut that short again, okay?"
What could I do but laugh and say, "Okay, Kathy. Okay!!"
Then I got in my car and tried to detach.
I only tell you that she's Korean because the point of this post is that maybe Koreans are like Brazilians: they tell the truth and nothing but the truth.
When we lived in Brazil we got used to people saying things like, "You look like you've gained weight."
"That color doesn't do anything for your complexion."
"You should not pick at your nails. That makes them look so ugly."
They'd ask questions like: "How much did you pay for your car?"
"What size do you wear?"
"Who is that ugly person there?" (in the family photo album you were showing them)
So when Kathy was so blunt about my hair cut, well, I was surprised.
I had thought Asians were more polite.
And yet I liked her honesty.
It showed me how good a friendship we had developed.
And I felt as if I were in Brazil again.
AND (and this is my main point) it showed me that at 60 I AM liking myself ... and that it does NOT depend on whether someone ELSE likes my hair. ... what matters if I - me, myself and I - like my hair.
This is not an earth-shattering blog post, I know.
But I think it's worth saying.
I CAN LIKE MY HAIR - EVEN IF SOMEONE ELSE DOESN'T!
I used to base my worth on my perception of other people's worth of me.
I'm glad I've outgrown that.
(I have a new crazy poll up (upper right) (which I should have proofread).... thanks for voting!)
Here's a cartoon-related-to-the-topic ...
Does anyone relate?