Friday, February 14, 2014

Marriage Advice .....

This is my post from Feb. 16, 2011.  I'd been blogging about marriage, and had asked my blog readers to give advice to newlyweds.   I thought the answers were great.

Here's from February, 2011....

Wow. You, blog readers, are so wise. I love your advice!

Here it is!!

Be sure you're in it together. By it, I mean life. You're a team and together you take on the world.


Never, ever make fun of your spouse in public. Even if you are just teasing.


Don't fight. Negotiate.


Laugh a lot.


On those days when maybe you don't "like" each other so much, take time to remember what it is you LOVE about your spouse and TELL THEM.


Never nag.


Pray for your spouse often. At the very least once a day. Pray for his/her health, safety, well-being, job performance, happiness, faith, etc.


Don't make your Facebook status a criticism of your spouse.


Don't go to bed mad - if possible.


Don't flirt with anybody but your spouse.


Let criticism BE GONE!!!


Don't keep secrets.


Look nice at home.


Learn each other's Love Language and "speak" it often.


Show each other respect.


Communicate.


Don't hold grudges.


Laugh.


Don't take yourself too seriously.


Relax together.


Be intimate.


Intentionally set aside time to be together.


Don't think that marriage is a 50/50 partnership. Its 100/100. Even if you feel like your spouse isn't measuring up all the time.


Show a genuine interest and appreciation for your spouse's hobbies and make time to take part in them.


Travel the world and see new places together.


Cook dinner as a couple.


Give random gifts for no reason at all.


When your spouse isn't making sense to you, try with all your might to see it from their perspective. Remember men and women quite often do not process or see things the same way.


Trust is giant.


Love trumps everything.


Do not go to bed mad at each other.


It's okay to agree to disagree.


Pray together. The strength you two will feel as sit in God's hands together is awesome and will flow through everything you do.


Read HIS NEEDS HER NEEDS by Willard Harley


Don’t expect your spouse to meet all your emotional needs. That’s so not fair to your spouse.


Seek to love your spouse unconditionally.


Always kiss goodbye.


 Is that not great?

Thanks, everyone!!!!

2 comments:

Anita D. said...

Lots of good stuff on here. Don't forget to spend time alone. You have to re-charge your batteries!

Vicki Maxwell said...

Put God first and look to Him not your husband to meet all you needs. Pray with your husband everyday, this keeps all things in perspective. Be quick to listen and forgive and slow in speaking. Treat your husband as you want him to treat you, remember what you sew you reap:)