Wednesday, February 11, 2015

I didn't want a jock, I wanted a geek...

Sam came home a few weeks ago after shopping for a different car (for various reasons we're trying to lower our expenses), and he told me about his encounter with a car salesman.
The salesman was trying to get Sam to consider a certain car, and Sam said to him, "Well, you see I'm kind of a geek, and what I'm looking for in a car is, well, about the technology in the car." (something like that)

When he told me that (the geek part) a light bulb went off... and explained my attraction to him (yes, after all these years!).
I didn't want a jock, I wanted a geek!
(And I got one.)

As to what is a geek, I posted in an earlier post the definition.... which I will repeat here.
1. a digital-technology expert or enthusiast (a term of pride as self-reference, but often used disparagingly by others).
2. a person who has excessive enthusiasm for and some expertise about a specialized subject or activity:
a foreign-film geek.
3. a peculiar person, especially one who is perceived to be overly intellectual, unfashionable, or socially awkward.
4. a carnival performer who performs sensationally morbid or disgusting acts, as biting off the head of a live chicken.

(Older folks (older than I) may know about the 4th definition. Whoa.)

As for the definition of 'jock' - I'm using the term as an informal term for 'athlete'.
(Which I also got on 

People look for different things in a mate.

Me - I was happiest when I quit looking for anything - and enjoyed being single.

I was a bridesmaid for many years before I was a bride.
That was fine by me.

In my mid-twenties I'd decided I could be single just fine.

And then I had a date. ...
And we'd talked about the book, HOW TO READ A BOOK.
And we'd talked about other things... that might have made other gals roll their eyes.
Not I.

Here was a man who was really interesting.
And intelligent.

He made me think.

And I was hooked...
Yes, I was hooked by his intellect, his humor, his wisdom.
I became hooked by HIM.

And then (very long story short) four months later he asked me to be his wife.

I did not have to think about it.
I did not hesitate one minute in saying YES!!!

Why, when he asked if I would be if his wife, I almost caused a wreck. (He asked as we were driving home from the first preaching gig he had - since I'd started dating him.)



And we've had a great life together....

He did a new, wonderful thing: besides Bear Valley Community Church
he started ZERO CHURCH...

which maybe he (or someone like minded) will do it again!

Anyway, I have never known a man who is so innovative,
so entrepreneurial, so wise
and so wonderful
in my entire life.

Here he is in Brazil in the early 1980's...
He's front and center (to the left).
He was doing what he could to have those pastors do what they could -  to lead folks to Christ.

Oh, Sam isn't perfect.
And I'm not perfect.
(for sure)

But he's my man.
And I'm his woman.

Would that most marriages would think that way.


A Mrs. Samuel Williams Carmack V.


I hope you love being who you are...
and who(m) you're married to, if you're married.


Oh, and I heard this somewhere:
"True masculinity is at least 38% geek
(that way the jocks aren't offended)."


Here's another Valentine for Sam....


laura said...

glad you guys found each other! for my sake :) i am blessed to have parents who are still are in love with each other

sara [at] journey of doing said...

This is the sweetest! Laura is right - she sure is lucky! And you are too! But is it luck? I'm pretty sure you both worked pretty hard at that marriage... ;)

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